Monday, March 18, 2013

What You Really Want

Someone's story somehow inspires me to write this post. The situation is about a girl who is torn in between two lovers. She feels so secure with the first person however feels so right when shes with the second person. A part of her tell her to keep the first one because of his stability and husband material type. Another part of her tell her to follow her heart since she is much more comfortable with the second person.
The choosing part is the difficult one

Im going to tell you what would i do if i ever faced this type of situation. Firstly, i would definitely ask myself what do i really want right now. If i choose to be happy, i would definitely leave the first one and go on with the second one. Since i can talk almost everything with this person and not with the first person. Besides, i fell for this person and i like to spend time more with this guy than the first one.
Remember, dont hold on to someone because you've been together for so long
This is not a good reason for you to stay with someone. It has always be about how you feel and what you want. Not the duration of the relationship. Dont be afraid to start fresh and new chapter. Take the risk for the sake of your heart. At least,we would be proud that we have corrected our doubting feelings or perturbations.
also, dont hold on to someone because of sympathy
you probably think you the only person that he can depend to or anything. for example, i did hold on to my previous relationship because i think it would not be fair if i leave because he had spend so much time with me and sacrifice a lot for me and so on. however, i knew what i want and i dont feel like im in a relationship at that time. hence i call it off. 

a wise lady told me a phrase that will make me remember it for the rest of my life. She told me on the phone while i was working. She was literally in tears while talking to me and me, being as empathetic as i am, was in tears too. She is the first person to make me cried in the office.
'Be with someone who won’t stay mad at you, who can’t stand not talking to you, and who’s afraid of losing you.'
However, we always not getting what we want in this world. well, i believe this only happens in the beginning. im sure it is just a test from God to see how strong we are on getting what we want in life. 
dont u agree?